Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Wild Wednesday: Celebrity Unassisted Homebirth

This couple now have 2 babies... Echo and Maxine.
Not gonna lie- I am thinking both names are pretty cute.

Nick Hexum Delivered Daughter At Home

Nick Hexum Delivered Daughter At Home

It's safe to say that 311 rocker Nick Hexum is a very hands-on dad!

Though it wasn't exactly part of the birth plan, the 41-year-old singer ended up delivering his daughter when his wife Nikki suddenly went into labor at home last month.

The couple had planned for a midwife-assisted home birth - which is how their now 1 1/2-year-old daughter Echo was born - but US reports that Nikki's labor progressed so quickly that her husband had to deliver the baby himself.

Adding to the stress of the situation, there was a scary moment when Nick discovered that the umbilical cord was wrapped around the baby's neck. But remembering Echo's birth, he was able rotate the baby and get her out.

Happily, both Nikki and their baby girl Maxine are just fine. Congratulations to Nick and his family!

Photos: Bauer Griffin

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Trusting Tuesday: Birth Stools

I found a wonderful blog entry by the Arizona Birth Network on birth stools and squatting bars. Find it HERE
Here is a picture of a birth stool. You use it, well, like a toilet. Did I just say that? Well, I guess I did. Often when you push or bear down to birth your baby we tell women to push like they are pooping. Well guess what? Pooping lying down is hard to do- how many times in our adult lives have we pooped lying down??? How many times have we pooped, lying on our backs and holding our legs up by our ears? Do you get the picture yet? It is hard to teach some women how to push effectively if we teach them to push like they are pooping.

However, with a birthing stool we can do just that. We can tell women to push like they are pooping. Because this is something we know how to do. Every day (sometimes more or less) we sit down to poop. We know how to push when we sit down on a birthing stool.

To operate this very sophisticated piece of material, one would sit on it and push in order to deliver the baby, but obviously there is a spot cut out for a baby to come out and the attendant/midwife/physician/father etc would be able to to reach forward to help gently guide the baby safely earthside.

The post on Sunday was about a birth stool company that is trying to improve the design of the birth stool. More or less make it more comfortable, because come on... take a look at the picture above. Not very warm and friendly.

Monday, June 27, 2011

Mommy Monday: Mommy Time

When it is mommy time- what do you do for yourself?

Grab a drink, run outside and shut the door behind you??Sneak into your room, lock the door, and grab your Twilight book?
Or grab your ipod and run out the door?
I could think of a thousand other things that I love to do. What about you?

Sunday, June 26, 2011

Special Guest Sunday: Kaya Birth

I stumbled across this Canadian company who produces birthing stools. It looks like a pretty awesome upgrade from the old fashion birthing stools.

I think I will do a post later on in the week about birthing stools and their benefits.
Wow. I know. You are just so anxious to read that post. I can't think of anything more exciting. Right??

Check them out for more information


Friday, June 24, 2011

Fashion Friday: Headbands... for your belly?

So we put ginormous headbands on our teeny tiny little girls... why not take it a step further and put a ginormous headband around our belly. I mean, it is kind on like accessorizing your baby before anyone else can accessorize their baby.
While this is gorgeous- I am just not sure if it has hit the fashion trends yet.

Don't worry, I am sure it will get there soon. If you want to be ahead of the game check out the ETSY shop this came from. HERE
I wonder if I know this person... they are local to me

Here is the description from the page:
Stunning peacock feather maternity sash features hand rolled satin rosettes in gold, jade, wine & royal blue. Brown peacock feathers with a touch of maroon and jade, a long peacock tail sword feather, and a sparkly jade sparkly rhinestone finish this beauty off! Feathers may vary slightly in size. All flowers are hand rolled and may vary in appearance making each sash a unique beauty!

♥ Floral and feather portion of sash measure approximately 9"x9"
♥ Satin Sash measures approximately 90" in length.
♥ Sashes are assembled upon purchase. Please allow 3-5 days for production prior to shipping.

Small Parts Disclaimer
Warning: Choking hazard. May contain small parts. Not intended for children under 3 yrs. Adult supervision recommended.

Thursday, June 23, 2011

Thankful Thursday: The Real Stuff

I am so thankful for the bloggers out there who post "real stuff." And when I say real stuff I mean it is where they sat down and thought about something. Then thought some more. Then wrote and rewrote and saved it and then posted it a few days later when they were sure about it.

I have often thought about trying to be a "real stuff" blogger. But I am not. I am not a writer, and I often feel that there aren't enough things I can write about. Oh sure I can write about midwifery... but when I write about midwifery it borders on the edge of medical advice or hipaa violations. Those are two things I cannot blog about. I don't give out medical advice over the internet, I don't give it out over text messages, I don't give it to my friends. I give medical or midwifery advice :) to my patients. So I can't tell you what I would do in my own situation, but I can't advise someone else in a different situation because I don't know all the facts.

I can tell you about procedures and pregnancy and childbirth... but people want to hear birth stories. I don't often get permission from my patients to share their birth stories, not because I ask and they say no, but because I want birth stories to come from the mother herself. Her birth story is much different than the birth story I would tell.

I would like to become a "real stuff" blogger one day. Maybe just for one post. But until then I will be thankful for the bloggers who do post real stuff- like this post I ran across today about a woman who struggles daily with infertility but now has adopted children.

Henry Wyatt 10 weeks old

I've been thinking about infertility. Not sure why.

I don't have any grand bit of wisdom to impart. I don't understand the complex emotions involved. I can't tell you how to deal with it.

But I know I made it through something like twelve years of wanting a child. I know I am now standing on the other side of that trial and au revoir to thatthankyouverymuch.

As I sit here on my sofa typing this, with slobber spots on my pants and little finger prints all over the furniture, these are the things that come to my mind. It's not wisdom. It's just what I know.

The joy we experienced when our children finally arrived was equal to, and may have even exceeded, the sorrow we felt at our darkest moments.

Unlike childbirth, you never forget the pain of not being able to have a child.

Just because you wanted children for much longer than most people doesn't mean your kids won't drive you up the wall. Just because you went through hell to get them here doesn't mean they will appreciate it. At the end of the day, you are just a parent like any other.

Refraining from buying baby things until you are pregnant is just a silly way of trying to insulate your feelings. Go ahead and buy stuff. It will put you ahead of the game when it finally happens. Wanting those little baby things means you still have hope.

Feeling bitter and nasty towards others who are having babies is completely normal. It doesn't make you a bad person. However, if you behave badly in these circumstances, down the road the bitterness you feel will be of regret.

When you have infertility you must think of it as a war. You will loose battles. It will be expensive. Plans will be made and then cast aside for new plans. If you want to win, you will not retreat. You will regroup and press forward.

And you will need a good mate for the fox hole. If this relationship isn't right, you might want to lay low and reconsider.

Here's the last thing I know. It took me years to realize this. In fact, it only dawned on me a few months ago. I could never figure out why I had to go through infertility. What was I supposed to learn? Why was that part of my life path?

Here's what I know today. I had to experience infertility to lead me to adoption. I had to wait for my adopted children because at the time I started wanting them their birth mother was only fourteen. My children were to be born by this girl and only this girl. That was the plan. Sometimes the Lord has to work with logistics.

I'm not at all sure why I am writing this today. Maybe there is someone out there that needs to hear this? I don't know.

But I'm writing it down. For the record.

Now that is "real stuff." Well said and thank you.

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Wild Wednesday: HIPPA vs HIPAA

Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act

Did you know that it is HIPAA and not HIPPA??

Wait- do you know what this is? It is that huge law that says medical people can't talk about other patients or divulge identifying information to anyone other than the patient (or durable power of attorney or guardian or parent, etc.) That is when doctors and nurses and practitioners get fined lots of money and can get sued if they accidentally or purposefully release identifying information.

So I knew about this law and how it was abbreviated back when I started nursing school. It was created in 1996 and I am sure I heard of it before then since my mom and my dad work in the medical field. I guess I really had to learn about it in 2002 when I was taking prerequisite courses for nursing school.

That doesn't mean I think it should be abbreviated this way. I think they should have thrown in the word PRIVACY in the title. Thus making it HIPPAA. Oh well, I guess they wouldn't have listened very much to a 12 year old when it was passed in 1996.

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Trusting Tuesday: Cloth Diapers

I used cloth diapers with my daughters... however I had to stop because of the chaffing and diaper rash my daughter kept getting. The BumGenius Diapers I used (one size pocket diapers) were a little too thick and kept causing a rash for my daughter.

Anyway, I know that I will be back to cloth diapers with the next baby (NOT AN ANNOUNCEMENT!) so I want to be a little more prepared this time around.

I found this website:

and then I loved this simple how-to guide.

Ready to go with cloth diapers? Here is how many of each item you will need:

When considering the amounts to buy, take into account the age of your baby. Newborns and infants will need 10 to 12 changes a day. Toddlers will need 8 to 10. Most cloth diaperers wash diapers every 2 or 3 days.

If you decide to try fitted cloth diapers be sure to try a sampling before investing in a large number of any one brand. Fitted diapers vary quite a bit in size and fit from baby to baby.

Your cloth diapering system can be all one type of diaper or a combination of pre-folds, fitted, and even all-in-ones.

Wash and dry new cloth diapers 5 to 10 times to remove chemicals. This will also increase the absorbancy of your cloth diapers. Do not worry if you notice that your cloth diapers "quilt up" during this process. This is normal.

To extend the life of our cloth diapers and covers, we hang them dry. It is especially important to do this with AIO's and diaper covers to preserve their waterproofing ability.

The washing instructions are for a full load of cloth diapers. You may include nylon and polyester diapers covers in this load. Handwash all wool covers.

Overnight Soak Method

  • Pre-Wash. (This step can be skipped if you use the wet pail method.) Place all cloth diapers in the washer, and run a prewash in cold water. This will remove most of the loose particles from the cloth diapers.
  • Overnight Soak. Refill the washer with cold water and 1/2 cup of baking soda. Let it agitate for a minute or two, then turn off the machine and let the cloth diapers soak several hours or overnight. Drain the water (I run a pre-wash to do this.) Baking soda is a base and neutralizes the urine in the cloth diapers. This is very effective in whitening and removing the smell from the cloth diapers.
  • Hot Wash. Empty the bin and run the wash with hot water, detergent and 1/2 cup Arm and Hammer Washing Soda. Since my baby has sensitive skin, I use All HypoAllergen detergent.
  • Double Rinse. Add about 1/2 cup of vinegar during the first rinse. If you have a washer with a fabric softener compartment pour the vinegar there when starting the hot wash. Otherwise you can throw in a Downy ball filled with vinegar.

No Soak Method

If you prefer not to soak your diapers or if you only have access to a coin operated machine follow this method:
  • Cold Wash. Place all your soiled cloth diapers in the machine with baking soda for a cold water wash.
  • Hot Wash. Add your wet cloth diapers to load, add detergent and baking soda and wash in hot water.
  • Rinse. Rinse cloth diapers with cold water and vinegar.
  • 2nd Rinse. Rinse cloth diapers with cold water.

There are several recipes you can use for cloth wipes. Here is Diaper Pin's favorite:

To hold your wipes you can use an empty disposable wipes container or a wipe warmer.

Include baking soda when washing or soaking your cloth diapers.

If you use baking soda in the wash or soak, make sure to use vinegar in the rinse, This will help restore the pH of the cloth diapers. Otherwise your baby may end up with diaper rash.

According to Vicki Lansky author of Baking Soda : Over 500 Fabulous, Fun and Frugal Uses You've Probably Never Thought of, baking soda works with liquid detergents to whiten and brighten laundry. It does not boost powder detergents.

Many parents have complained that using vinegar in the wash leaves their diapers remaining smelly. Actually it is more effective to use baking soda in the wash and add vinegar to the rinse. See our washing recommendations for more information.

Hint: Consider using vinegar in the rinse cycle of all your laundry, not just the diapers load. Also consider buying distilled white vinegar by the gallon for general household cleaning. Melodie Moore's book, Vim & Vinegar, is a wonderful resource for learning how to use vinegar to replace expensive cleaners for floors, refrigerators, furniture, laundry, copper and stubborn stains.

There are 3 basic methods for storing wet and soiled cloth diapers, wet pail, dry pail and wet/dry pail.

  • Dry pail. All cloth diapers are placed in a covered pail. Sprinkle baking soda to control the odors.
  • Wet pail. All cloth diapers are placed in a pail half filled with water. Make sure this pail is covered to prevent infant drowing.
The Diaper Pin preferred method is the dry pail method. We used to use the wet pail system (for dirty diapers only), but it was messy and unwieldy. Now we simply dunk dirty diapers (and swish if necessary) in the toilet bowl before tossing in the dry pail. We keep our diaper pail in the bathroom. Much easier!

Fastening is the biggest challenge with pre-folds.

  • Pins are easy to use once you get the hang of them. Between uses stick opened pins in a bar of soap. Alternatively run the pins through your hair before pinning diapers. Both methods gives the pins a coating that allows them to glide through cloth the next time you diaper.
  • Afraid of using pins? Do not be discouraged. You can use Snappi Diaper Fasteners orDi-d Clips instead.
  • Another alternative is to simply fold the cloth diaper in thirds and enclose within avelcro or snap fastened diaper cover over the prefold and the baby.

Here are two methods:

  • In thirds lay the cloth diaper flat with the length running up and down. Fold the right panel over the middle, then the left side over the right fold. Then flare out the top and bottom. If you are pinning, pin the corresponding front and back corners together.
  • Poop pouch lay the cloth diaper flat with the length running up and down. Place the baby in the middle of the cloth diaper straddling the diaper. Let the cloth diaper bunch between the baby's legs forming a little pouch.
For more folding methods and illustrations read folding techniques.

Cotton has a naturally occuring wax in it. Since your natural Chinese prefolds are not bleached during manufacture, the wax is not removed. To remove the wax, you must wash your prefolds in VERY hot water. Here are some tips for those whose water may seem to be not quite hot enough. Try Tide. We do not recommend Tide for daily use because it is harsh, but it does seem to help remove this natural wax more quickly. Turn up your water heater for a few washes or add boiling water to your washer to raise the water temperature. We have also had some moms boil their diapers with great success! The number of washes needed to remove the wax will vary. If your water is very hot and you use Tide and you have city water which is chlorinated, you may only need to wash once. In other cases, you may need to wash a few more times. Rest assured, this natural wax will always come out! Contributed by Joyce of Katie's Kisses

Monday, June 20, 2011

Mommy Monday: Magic Eraser

I do not know what I would do without the magic eraser.

Seriously- what is that thing made of?
I only used it twice this weekend. Once when my daughter--- above--- colored all over the tub.

And again when there was some sort of food product plastered on the wall. Enough said.

Is it too bold to say that the Magic Eraser is a Mommy's best friend??

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Special Guest Sunday: Father's Day Edition

I sure hope the fathers in your life are as good as the ones in mine.

Take a look at this picture. It is completely our daily life. The girls push button after button of their daddy but secretly he loves every single day of this crazy little life.

Thank you daddy for being such a wonderful father to our baby girls!
Here are the words to my favorite children's song about fathers... so conveniently called:

The father of our home leads our family
With wisdom's light in all that's right;
My father's good to me.

Father's are so special, with a very special love.
They watch us and protect us.
They guide us and direct us.
Back to our home above.

Friday, June 17, 2011

Fashion Friday: Organic Breast Pads

I am not sure why I never used reusable breast pads. I am talking about the nursing pads you put in your nursing bra when you are breastfeeding in order to prevent leaks onto your clothes.

Come on- we all leaked once or twice onto our clothes- especially that first time your milk comes in and you wake up drenched. Believe me 1st time moms- it will happen.

I always used the lansinoh breast pads. I guess I used them because I used Lansinoh nipple cream and Lansinoh storage bags for my milk. Also I really like what they stand for. I felt they weren't trying to sell their products as much as they were really trying to help others.

(Obviously they are a business and trying to make money- but somehow in my mind I was a loyal customer and very supportive of this brand.)

Anyway, they are individually wrapped in plastic, they have a plastic backing to cover the sticky side of the pad. Talk about wasteful. Anyway, I probably went through 30 boxes of these guys with each nursling because I nursed and leaked for so long.

So why in the world would I use cloth diapers to help be green but not use cloth nursing pads??

Enter My Organic Breast Pads HERE

I am sold. They are organic, washable, reusable, and cute. Sure they are usually hidden by a nursing bra and they get all covered in milk, but we will be saving the earth and protecting from embarassing leaks in style.
LOVE THEM! What do you think??

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Thankful Thursday: Target Dollar Spot

Who else loves the $1 Target spot? I am such a huge fan. The first thing I do when I go into target is browse their $1 bins.

My most recent purchase: 4 pairs of sunglasses for each of my 2 girls. They had to be matching of course.
Sorry for the blurry picture- someone needs a new camera that isn't handled by toddlers who smudge their fingers all over the lens.

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Wild Wednesday: Make your own "cold pack"

Check it out HERE

and then look at the YouTube video HERE

How to Make Your Own Cool Gel Pack


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Would you like to know how to make your own cool gel pack?

You know, the kind you can freeze and toss into an ice chest or wrap in a towel and put on aching muscles?

It is super easy to make your own!

You will need these supplies:

  • Ziploc bag
  • rubbing alcohol
  • water
  • blue food coloring

1. Fill a Ziploc bag with 1 part rubbing alcohol, 3 parts water. The alcohol will keep the water from freezing solid, so if you want a firmer gel pack, add less alcohol. If you want it squishier, add more.

2. Add 5 drops of blue food coloring. This is a visual reminder that it is not for consumption. I ended up deciding this bag was too full, so I divided this liquid into 2 bags.

3. THAT’S IT! Seal well and freeze.

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Trusting Tuesday: Babywise

There has been quite "the stir" lately about the American Academy of Pediatrics warning parents about using Babywise as a method of parenting. Babywise is a very popular and well known book that teaches parents how to get their children on a schedule. I have seen it work very well for multiple friends.

The fear that is presented is that parents are not letting their children have "demand" feedings. In turn this can cause the baby to not be getting enough to eat, causing failure to thrive or dehydration. In Babywise the baby learns to cry itself to sleep and stay on a schedule. This is supposed to help everyone feel a sense of balance and order.

I see both sides of this method. I see mom's who have been very successful with this method. Their children are well rounded, happy, well fed, and turn into sweet toddlers. I have also seen a baby be diagnosed with failure to thrive because the mother had missed feeding cues and was scheduling feedings instead of letting them be on demand.

I also feel that a lot of people who are criticizing the method of Babywise are using the American Academy of Pediatrics as a driving force behind their arguments. However, a lot of the parents who are against babywise are against vaccines and are pro co-sleeping.

Am I wrong- or does the American Academy of Pediatrics recommend vaccines and strictly encourage "back to sleep" to reduce the risk of SIDS?

Can we have it one way or no way? How can we argue that even the AAP supports something but ignore the fact that they support something else? I guess education is the key. Trust your decisions, but allow room for adjustments. Vaccines or babywise or pacifiers or rice cereal or formula or whatever- make the best decisions for you and your family- but allow room for adjustments. Because your baby will change daily and so will you.

Monday, June 13, 2011

Mommy Monday: Actions Speak Louder Than Words

I am very guilty of telling my children to "wait a minute" or "hold on." How come I always feel that my time is more important than their time? Most importantly, how can I change and become a better parent?

I found this article through facebook- you can find it HERE

When Your Child Won't Listen - Actions speak louder than words... but how?

"I call out to my kids but they never listen."

The frustration on this parent's face was clear. We were part-way through a workshop last week when the issue arose.

As we spoke about the challenge this parent was facing I asked, "When your children want your attention, what do you normally say or do?"

There was silence, then the lightbulb moment occurred. Eyes were wide, mouths dropped open.

"I say I'll be there in a minute, or hang on just a sec."

"I usually just tell them to be patient" volunteered another parent.

"I get annoyed at them for interrupting and being inconvenient" was another response (paraphrased).

Heads were nodding around the room as mums and dads recognised the truth that when they, as parents, wanted their child's attention and presence, that their children were doing exactly what they had been taught to do by their parents.

While the parents were making demands for action 'NOW!', the children were not being taught by what was said. Instead, they were being taught by what they observed every time they, as children, requested something of their parents.

It's an old cliche, but it applies more to parenting than anything: Actions speak louder than words (and I'm not talking about punitive consequences, I'm talking about our example).

Our children look at what we do, and they do it.

"NO SHOUTING IN THIS HOUSE" will not teach our children to use quiet voices.

"Stop hitting your sister when you're angry" is not a command that will be followed by our children if it is accompanied by a parent slapping a child for hitting (or biting, or anything else physical).

Beyond example, are there any other ways that we can encourage our children to listen?

Here are a few additional pointers:
  1. Be reasonable in requests. Is what you are asking really necessary? Does it really have to be done right now in the way you want it done? Is there room for flexibility?
  2. Try not to interrupt your children too much. They may be only "playing", but play is some of the most important work they can do. They may be in the middle of their favourite tv show. Wait until the ads. Show the same respect you expect of them toward you.
  3. Don't demand everything NOW! Instead, get their attention, explain what you are after, and set a mutually agreeable time table. It might be today, it might be within an hour, or it might be in the next 5 minutes. But don't demand it now unless it needs to be done now.
  4. Use gentle reminders. Instead of being upset, making a commotion, and inviting resistance, simply say the person's name and one or two words about what is required. For example, "Josh, your lunchbox."
  5. Get your child's attention, and speak softer and softer. The irony is that when we shout, people switch off. It's offensive. But when we speak softly... they strain to take in every word we say. Your message will get across with focused soft speaking.
When your children won't listen, what ideas work best for you? How do you get their attention while still maintaining a peaceful and positive environment?

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Special Guest Sunday: DiaperDude Winner!

True Random Number Generator 19

The winner of our DiaperDude $25 gift card was #19 who was Jan!

I think this is very fitting. Jan is a mother of 3 boys. 3 wonderfully handsome boys.
Jan also taught my hypnobirthing class with daughter #2.
Jan had a breech vaginal birth with her baby #2.
(seriously an awesome story! Maybe I will get her to share it with us)

Guess who was the very first nurse who oriented me to labor and delivery nursing when I was in nursing school. Yes, Jan.

I could go on for days about Jan. She has her masters degree in public health nursing, she is an amazing seamstress, cook, and a very generous woman. I wish Jan lived closer. My husband also wishes they lived closer because he is great friends with Jan's husband.

Congrats Jan and thanks for entering.

Friday, June 10, 2011

Fashion Friday: Soccer player?

I think this tank top is pretty funny. We all think the little one inside of us will be a soccer player. I also love that this artist did the picture herself.

Check it out or purchase HERE

Soccer Baby in Belly. Black Tank Top. Size S, M, L or XL

Up for sale is a brand new black maternity tank top with Soccer Baby in Belly design.

The shirts are 100% cotton, soft and stretchy with thin straps. Perfect for layering or wearing on its own. Designed to last whole 9 months.

The design is 100% mine. It is a watercolor paintings that I scanned, printed and appplied on the shirts.

~~~ Giveaway ends at 5:00PM tonight!!~~~~

Do you have something you make related to pregnancy, labor, or motherhood that you want to have featured on our site? Contact us at Brittkay[at]gmail[dot]com

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Wild Wednesday: Babysteals!

This old picture of me juggling my two girls to get a decent picture- kind of like the juggling I felt on Monday with

Wow... We are still recovering from our debut on

It was such a fun experience. To see our gowns, to hear when they sold out, to watch as comments (both positive and negative) came flooding our way. We received some very positive suggestions and ideas, so please please keep them coming. We are always looking for ways to make improvements.

One of the things we heard a lot of questions about is the design of our gown. My sister and I are in the throws of the labor, delivery, birthing, breastfeeding, postpartum, bleeding arena. We know what works and what doesn't. We know that our snaps on our gowns allow for skin to skin, breastfeeding and breastfeeding discretely. We also know that the snaps allow for IV access, epidurals, injections, and quick clothes changes if needed. Taking on and off the gown is also very easy because of the easy access ties and snaps. No tangled mess, no shifting, shuffling, or even getting hot. Button all, one, or even none of the snaps to find your optimum level of comfort.

Thank you so much for all of your support, interest and faith in Laborlooks. We certainly feel the love.


Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Trusting Tuesday: Midwife Article

Anytime I see an article on Midwives I am drawn to it... I wonder why? Haha. Take a look at this beautiful article that was posted HERE about Certified Nurse Midwives in Michigan.

Moms and their midwives form bond during pregnancy and delivery

Midwife-assisted births can offer mothers more control over the delivery.

DETROIT — Steve Lucero drew in his first look at his baby girl under the ripples of water of the birthing tub at Hutzel Women's Hospital, her thick dark hair wafting gently as she began the descent from her mother's body.

The lights were dimmed in the delivery room. Jess Lucero dipped her fingers into the 100-degree water, until — at 10:20 p.m. March 12 — Aviana Cessalee's feather-soft 6 pounds and 15 ounces eased into the world.

There was no rush from attending staff. No bright lights and bustle. Nothing — except for the soft blue light inside the tub and Avi's intake of air as she lay on her mother's chest.

Jess Lucero, a 26-year-old doctoral student at Wayne State University, was ecstatic: "I gave birth, I delivered my baby. It wasn't delivered for me. It was wonderful."

Jennifer Kelley, 32, a bubbly nurse-midwife who had monitored and encouraged the Luceros in the last hour, cleaned out Avi's nose and mouth, then stepped away for the new family of three, Steve Lucero said.

The Luceros are among a steady percentage of moms who each year choose a midwife-assisted birth over a traditional medical approach. Midwife-assisted births can offer mothers more control over the delivery, a more personal relationship between patient and caregiver, and the option of fewer medical interventions.

Midwives attended 317,626 births in the United States in 2008, or about 7.5 percent of overall births. Of those midwife-assisted births, nine of 10 were delivered in hospital settings, according to the National Center for Health Statistics.

Jess Lucero said the midwife who helped her through her pregnancy, Mary Lewis, 68, who also heads the Wayne State University Physician Group's midwifery program, was "warm and wonderful."

"She always took time in my appointments to really sit with me and answer questions and make me feel like I'm not being paranoid. She was very maternal," Lucero said.

The mother-midwife partnership is often forged in first names and easy conversations about health and nutrition and pregnancy rather than through titles and quick conversations on an examination table.

LaCynthia Davis, 41, who gave birth to her fifth child May 12 at Hutzel, carried her midwife's personal cell number with her.

The relationship between mom and nurse-midwife feels more like a friendship, said Davis and her midwife, Mary Milkey.

"This is the difference for me" between midwives and a delivery room doctor, said Milkey, 36, a mother of three. During her own prenatal visits, Milkey said, " I felt like I was going to chat with a friend."

She added with a laugh: "When all my prenatal visits were over, I felt like we were breaking up."

Certainly, there are doctors who provide that type of personal interaction. But midwife philosophy is based on it. It's a holistic, personal approach to pregnancy rooted in the belief that birth is one of the most empowering moments for parents.

That understanding and control, in turn, brings the baby into a calmer world — whether the mother is on a hospital bed, being soothed by a warm shower, or trying to relax in a birthing tub as the Luceros chose.

Some moms want more control, fearing they'll be simply a number in a traditional medical setting. Or they worry they'll lose control against what they see as unnecessary drugs and medical interventions.

With one in three babies now born by cesarean section, many believe that traditional medicine is too quick with drugs and a scalpel.

"The evidence supports that many interventions today are overused. Births in the United States are over medicinized," said Eileen Ehudin Beard, senior practice adviser at American College of Nurse-Midwives.

"As women become more educated consumers and evidence comes out at the normalcy of birth," she said, they feel many interventions are "not only not necessary but also deleterious."

But what about the pain?

First, midwives can deliver pain meds. From time to time, a woman does opt for pain relief, especially first-time, anxious mothers.

For Davis, her midwife helped control anxiety and pain.

"I guess it was all natural. It was a mind thing. When the pain comes you just made a noise, breathed and go with it," she said. "I made a decision, and everyone knew I was going to stick with it."

Milkey provided Davis' prenatal care, so both were thrilled when Milkey was available for the birth.

Inside the Hutzel delivery room, Davis' partner, Ali Watson, pulled up a stool at Davis' side and held her hand throughout the pain. Milkey stepped in only when necessary, offering words of support and progress reports.

"There's a saying that midwives catch babies," Milkey said later. "And we do. Really, Mom" is in control.

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The expertise, education and credentials for midwives — even where they can legally attend a birth — varies, though most births now occur in the hospitals with certified nurse-midwives.

Knowing these differences can help consumers find the right fit.

Certified Nurse-Midwives: They usually deliver in a hospital or birthing center, though some also work in homes. They are registered nurses who have advanced training in a program accredited by the Accreditation Commission for Midwifery Education.

More can be found at

Direct-entry Midwives: They generally deliver in homes, and their education varies.

Some direct-entry midwives are Certified Professional Midwives who have met competency-based standards set by the North American Registry of Midwives. For more information, visit

Some direct-entry midwives are not licensed at all, in part, because the paperwork would not authorize them to practice in some states, anyway. In other states, laws prohibit them altogether, said Willa Powell, president of the Citizens for Midwifery. Her group wants nationwide acceptance of certification for midwives.

The lack of recognition can create a "buyer-beware scenario," says Powell, and it reduces the options for women.

In worst cases, midwives attending home deliveries illegally may hesitate before seeking out a doctor in an emergency, fearing legal trouble.

Just 27 states license Certified Professional Midwives, and Michigan is not among them.

For more information on differences in midwives and state laws, visit

Monday, June 6, 2011

Mommy Monday: BABYSTEALS!

Seriously I don't even know if I should post this?? Guess where we are featured today? BABYSTEALS! a website that features products for moms and babies every day at HUGE discounts! Seriously, what were we thinking?

We were thinking that a lot of moms, like ourselves, are on budgets. We try to offer coupon codes and discounts when we can, but NEVER at these prices!! Since we are small and our production is all done in the USA with top quality materials, we usually can't afford offers like this.

One of the biggest reasons we put our gowns on Babysteals is to advertise, to spread the love, and let the world know about Laborlooks and how wonderfully fabulous we are :) I mean, how wonderfully fabulous our GOWNS are.

So if you have been holding out on purchasing one because of the price, wait no longer. Head over to and support us. This offer is only good for 12 hours!!!

Sunday, June 5, 2011

Special Guest Sunday: Running Mama

So I have a friend who is a runner. She also is a blogger. She also is a lawyer. I love reading her blog because she always makes me laugh and it almost inspires me to get outside and go running. But then I remember I am a hiker and I don't have good running shoes and it is very hot here in Phoenix.

Anyway, I love this new little niche of running bloggers. So I decided to try to find a pregnant mama who is a running blogger. Boy did I find one! Here is a mama who is 14 weeks pregnant with identical twins. I am thinking about sending her a Laborlooks gown- what do you think??

Here is her blog LINK

Here is a picture I stole from her blog... without her permission. Wow, I hope she doesn't come back and hate me for this! :)
I adore the picture though, how cute is that? The daddy's eyes just make me laugh out loud.

So I am now following her blog- I want to see how this pregnancy progresses with her twins and how well she can keep up her running.

As a midwife I often encourage my patients to continue their exercise programs as long as they stay well hydrated, don't experience any bleeding or contractions, and can breathe through their nose during the work out. <----- the nose thing is a good way to make sure you aren't pushing yourself too hard or getting your heart rate too fast. Another way to say this is you can keep working out as long as you can carry on a conversation, pretty much the same idea.
****disclaimer**** please talk to your healthcare provider before starting an exercise routine during pregnancy. Also ask your healthcare provider about your current exercise routine in pregnancy.****